The "Pick Me" Woman: Just as Dangerous as Misogynist Men

Ah, the "Pick Me" woman—the one who proudly declares, "I’m not like other girls!" while throwing the rest of us under the bus for the sweet, sweet reward of a man’s temporary attention.

She’s the first to defend misogynistic men, claiming that women are too sensitive and that feminism has gone too far. She’s the one who will swear she’s different because she doesn’t nag, doesn’t expect men to help with housework (because apparently, basic adult responsibilities are optional for men?), and totally believes that "if she can’t keep her man happy, another woman will."

Newsflash: Pick Me women are not only embarrassing, but they are also actively harmful to women’s rights.

What is a "Pick Me" Woman?

A Pick Me is a woman who is so desperate for male validation that she will say and do anything to make men see her as the "exception." She actively reinforces misogynistic beliefs, throwing fellow women under the bus in the process.

Her main personality trait? Pleasing men. Even when those men don’t care about her existence beyond a fleeting moment of attention.

You’ve seen them before:

• The ones who claim feminism is ruining relationships (because he said so).
• The ones who tell women to "just pick better men" instead of holding men accountable.
• The ones who proudly announce that they don’t wear makeup, unlike "fake" girls (as if men care).
• The ones who mock SA victims because "Well, I would never put myself in that situation."
• The ones who say "Not all men!" louder than the men themselves.

And let’s not forget the classic line: "I don’t get along with women because they’re too much drama!"

Sis, be serious. The only drama is the one you create by siding with men who wouldn’t even hold the door open for you.

Pick Me Women: Just as Dangerous as Misogynistic Men

The worst part? Pick Me women aren’t just annoying—they are dangerous.

While misogynistic men are busy oppressing women, Pick Mes are out here doing the work for them. They reinforce every outdated, harmful belief that keeps women trapped in abusive relationships, silenced in the workplace, and undervalued in society.

A Pick Me will defend a man’s right to be lazy, abusive, and unfaithful, but will blame a woman for not being "good enough" to keep him. She’ll call you bitter for expecting basic respect. She’ll laugh along when men degrade you because she thinks it makes her more attractive.

And the worst thing? She’ll raise sons to think the same way.

Women Are Fighting Two Battles

As if fighting misogynistic men wasn’t exhausting enough, we also have to deal with women who are actively working against us.

While feminists are out here:
✅ Fighting for equal pay
✅ Demanding justice for SA survivors
✅ Pushing for better laws to protect women
✅ Challenging outdated gender roles

Pick Me women are doing the opposite. They’re:
❌ Defending abusers ("He’s a good man deep down!")
❌ Shaming women for wanting equality ("Just be a good wife and you won’t have problems!")
❌ Enforcing outdated gender roles ("Men work hard, let them relax while you do everything!")
❌ Belittling other women to gain favour with men ("She’s just bitter because she can’t keep a man!")

While feminists fight for the rights of all women, Pick Me women fight for the approval of men—approval that is fleeting, conditional, and ultimately worthless.

Dope Soul Village: Fighting Back with Feminist Fashion UK

At Dope Soul Village, we’ve had enough.

We are building a village where women stand together, support each other, and call out misogynistic nonsense—including the nonsense coming from other women. And we’re doing it with Feminist Fashion UK that makes a statement.

Our Feminist Apparel UK isn’t just about looking good (though, let’s be real, you’ll look amazing). It’s about wearing your values and making it clear that you stand for women, not the approval of mediocre men.

💪 Wear a feminist hoodie that says "I Am the Drama" and watch Pick Me women tremble.
💪 Sip your tea from a feminist mug while watching misogynists get mad at your existence.
💪 Rock a feminist sweatshirt and make it clear that you won’t apologise for taking up space.

Every feminist hoodie, feminist sweatshirt, and feminist mug sold funds real help for women. Not just awareness, not just words—tangible, life-changing help.

Where does the money go?
✔️ Funding legal fees for women leaving abusive relationships (because men use the court system to keep women trapped).
✔️ Paying for emergency housing (because the government does the bare minimum).
✔️ Providing ongoing support for women (because escaping isn’t the end—it’s just the beginning).

No red tape. No begging. If you need help, you get it.

If You Want a Village, You Have to Build It

While Pick Me women obsess over male validation, we’re out here actually helping women.

At Dope Soul Village, we are creating the village that society abandoned.

👕 Wear the feminist hoodie.
☕ Drink from the feminist mug.
💪 Support feminist apparel UK that actually makes a difference.

And most importantly? Stand with women.

Because we are done fighting on two fronts. Pick Me women can either wake up—or move out of our way.