Pick-Me Culture: The Dangerous Woman Who’ll Throw You Under the Bus for a Man’s Approval

I’m sure you’ve heard of the "pick me" girl — the one who will do absolutely anything to get validation from men, even if it means sacrificing her own dignity. These women often come across as desperate for attention, but don’t be fooled: they can be incredibly dangerous, especially when they’re given the power to tear others down to make themselves look better. And guess what? I’ve had the misfortune of meeting one, and it was a lot more personal than I ever expected.

Let me introduce you to Chloe Masters, a woman married to Dom Masters, a soldier with 1 PWRR. Now, I didn’t know this at the time, but Chloe was actually my neighbour — yeah, the same woman who, one day, decided to walk into a Coffee Morning and announce to everyone that I was abusing my husband and needed to be reported. Yes, folks, that’s right. The stereotypical army wife behaviour at its finest: slagging off other women in public to get some sort of validation from her social circle.

Now, let’s talk about the phone call I received from Social Services. You would think that a call from Social Services would be a little more professional, right? But no, it was the most bizarre thing. At first, the social worker seemed concerned that I was being abused — but then, as she spoke, she clarified that the abuse wasn’t happening to me, but to my husband.
Naturally, I assumed the worst. Given my history with the military — particularly the lies and manipulation of 1 PWRR — I thought this was just another round of the same old “let’s get her in trouble for speaking out” routine.

And then, the social worker dropped a bombshell. She repeated word-for-word what OC Graeme King had said to her back in 2021. You remember Graeme King, right? The one who’d reported that my husband was being abused, even though it was a blatant lie.
And then, she mentioned something that stopped me dead in my tracks: “Your husband is waiting for a court martial.” That’s when I realised what was going on: This wasn’t just some random report; it was a military wife playing her part in the drama.

For context, there’s a big difference between a soldier awaiting a court martial and one awaiting a summary appeal hearing.
My husband, as it turns out, was waiting for a summary appeal hearing. Why? Because in 2021, Lt Col Wilde (who is another name you’ll want to remember, trust me) had charged my husband for taking in my shopping when I was pregnant with SPD (Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction).
Despite the fact that I was heavily pregnant and in agony, 1 PWRR had no interest in my wellbeing.
Instead, they decided to treat me like I was invisible. At the same time, Graeme King was pushing the false narrative that my husband wasn’t allowed into our home because I was “abusing” him. Ridiculous, right?

But the real kicker in this tale of army nonsense came when Chloe Masters, acting on some weird vendetta, decided to take things even further. She falsely reported me for doxxing and then claimed that I was harassing her. Of course, she got caught — too bad for her, she was too stupid to keep her lies straight.

And here’s the thing about Chloe: She’s a textbook pick-me.
She’ll throw anyone under the bus, lie about anything, and even put her own reputation at risk, all for the approval of men — particularly her husband. It’s like watching a bad reality show where the women will do anything to compete for the top spot. Chloe’s behaviour was a prime example of how toxic pick-me culture can be. She went as far as making my life miserable, and for what? So she could be the “good wife” in the eyes of her husband and his military colleagues. How pathetic.

But here’s the twist: Chloe was just the messenger, carrying out a mission allegedly set by Lt Col Zorab and his cronies. You see, when you’re dealing with the military, especially 1 PWRR, there’s a deep level of corruption at play.
The fact that Lt Col Zorab covered up the abuse, lied to social services, and shipped Chloe and her husband off to Cyprus just proves the level of manipulation that goes on behind closed doors.
And don’t even get me started on the fact that Chloe Masters had the audacity to falsely accuse me of things I didn’t do. But hey, what’s a little slander when it’s for the greater good of getting a man’s approval?

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the real lesson here: Pick-me women are dangerous. They perpetuate a toxic cycle of manipulation and deceit, all for the sake of “winning” in some imaginary competition that they’ve created in their heads. They will do anything to ensure that they’re on top, even if it means tearing others down in the process. It’s the classic “divide and conquer” strategy, and they use it to climb their way up the social ladder. But let me tell you, the higher they climb, the harder they fall.

As for me? Well, I’m done being quiet about this. For years, I’ve had to put up with the lies and the manipulation, but no more. This experience has fuelled my determination to speak out against the toxic army culture and the corruption that runs rampant within it. I’m one of the only wives who has dared to speak up, and I’m not going to stop until the truth comes out and justice is served.

And here’s the final note I’ll leave you with: It’s not just men we need to be wary of in this world; it’s other women too. Women like Chloe Masters will stop at nothing to get their moment in the sun, even if it means dragging others down with them. It’s a shame, really, but that’s the world we live in.

So, in case anyone missed it, Chloe Masters and her toxic pick-me ways aren’t going to stop me. In fact, they’ve only made me more determined to fight back. I’m turning my story into something positive, something that will help other women who are going through the same struggles. Because, let’s face it, if we don’t stand up for each other, who will?

And finally, remember that no matter how many lies are told or how many times people like Chloe try to bring you down, you’ve got this. They can’t take away your voice, and they can’t silence you — no matter how hard they try. Just like me, you can turn your pain into something powerful. And that’s exactly what I’m doing. Watch this space, because I’m not going anywhere.