Why Women with ADHD and Other Neurodivergent Conditions Are More Likely to Be Victims of Narcissists

Living with ADHD or any other neurodivergent condition means navigating a world that often feels like it wasn’t built for you. From childhood, women with ADHD are told they’re “too much,” “too emotional,” or just not trying hard enough. The constant criticism, masking, and self-doubt can make us prime targets for narcissists—people who thrive on control, manipulation, and emotional exploitation.

Why Are Neurodivergent Women More Vulnerable to Narcissists?

1. We’re Used to Being Blamed

Growing up with undiagnosed ADHD (or other neurodivergent traits) often means constantly being blamed for things outside our control. We forget things, we struggle with time management, we react emotionally—and instead of support, we get shame.

Narcissists love this. They’re experts at blame-shifting, making their victims believe everything is their fault. When you’ve spent your whole life being told you’re the problem, it’s far too easy to believe a narcissist when they say the same thing.

2. We Struggle with Rejection Sensitivity

Many neurodivergent women experience Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), where even small criticisms feel overwhelmingly painful. Narcissists weaponise this—they give love and approval when it benefits them and then rip it away to keep you on edge and desperate for their validation.

They know exactly how to push your buttons, making you feel like you need to earn their love. And when your brain is wired to chase dopamine, that validation can feel addictive.

3. We’re Overly Empathetic

Women with ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergent conditions tend to have huge hearts. We feel deeply, love intensely, and want to believe in the good in people. Narcissists prey on this—they spin sob stories about how they’re the real victim, twisting reality until we feel obligated to stay and “fix” them.

Even when the red flags are obvious, our empathy convinces us they just need more understanding, more patience, more love. Spoiler alert: They don’t. They just need control.

4. We Miss the Red Flags

ADHD brains struggle with pattern recognition, especially when emotions are involved. Narcissists use love bombing—showering us with affection, gifts, and attention—to create a whirlwind romance that feels like fate.

By the time they start showing their true colours, we’re already emotionally invested. Our impulsivity makes it harder to take a step back, and our rejection sensitivity makes us afraid to leave.

5. We Struggle with Boundaries

Most neurodivergent women were never taught to set healthy boundaries. We’re people pleasers, desperate to be liked, and willing to put others before ourselves—because we’ve been conditioned to believe we’re a burden.

Narcissists thrive on weak boundaries. They push and push, slowly eroding our sense of self until we’re isolated, confused, and completely dependent on them.

Breaking Free: What Dope Soul Village Is Doing to Help

Escaping a narcissist is incredibly difficult, especially when you’ve been gaslit into believing you need them. That’s where Dope Soul Village comes in.

We’re building a feminist-led village, providing women with real support—not just empty words, but actual, tangible help. And we’re doing it through Feminist Fashion UK, because activism should be worn loud and proud.

Every Feminist Hoodie, Feminist Sweatshirt, Feminist Mug, and Feminist Apparel UK piece we sell goes towards:

✅ Funding legal fees—because narcissists love dragging women through court battles just to exhaust them financially.

✅ Helping women flee abuse—covering emergency travel, accommodation, and essentials to get them somewhere safe.

✅ Providing long-term support—because leaving isn’t the end, and we don’t kick women to the curb once they’ve escaped.

✅ Raising awareness—because neurodivergent women deserve to know the signs and protect themselves before it’s too late.

If we want a world where narcissists can’t thrive, we have to create it ourselves. And that starts with Feminist Fashion UK—using our voices, our resources, and our community to fight back.

Wear Your Resistance

Wearing a Feminist Hoodie or sipping from a Feminist Mug might not seem revolutionary, but it starts conversations. It challenges norms. It makes people listen.

When you buy from Dope Soul Village, you’re not just getting feminist apparel UK—you’re funding real change.

Because every time a narcissist loses their grip on a woman who finally sees through their lies, we win.

Ready to join us? Shop Feminist Clothing UK today and help us build the village we all need.