10 Signs of a Narcissist & How to Protect Yourself

Ah, narcissists. The human equivalent of a pop-up ad—you never ask for them, yet they keep appearing in your life, draining your energy, and leaving you wondering how you ended up in their web of manipulation. Whether it’s a partner, a boss, a so-called friend, or even that one relative who thinks Christmas dinner is a stage for their one-man show, narcissists have a way of making everything about them.

And while we can't slap a "WARNING: MAY CAUSE EMOTIONAL DAMAGE" label on them, we can learn to spot the signs and, more importantly, protect ourselves.

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10 Signs You’re Dealing with a Narcissist

1. Everything is About Them (Shocking, Right?)

A narcissist’s favourite topic? Themselves. Their problems, their achievements, their oh-so-tragic past. You could be bleeding out on the floor, and they’d still find a way to make the conversation about their new job promotion.

2. Lack of Empathy (Ice-Cold Vibes)

If you’re expecting a narcissist to show genuine concern for your feelings, you might as well expect a fish to climb a tree. They can fake empathy when needed, but deep down, they don’t actually care how you feel.

3. Gaslighting (AKA, “Did I Imagine That?”)

Ever had someone twist reality so much you start doubting your own memory? That’s gaslighting, one of a narcissist’s favourite weapons. If you hear, “You’re too sensitive” or “That never happened” on a loop, you’re being manipulated.

4. They’re Always the Victim

No matter what happens, they’ll find a way to spin the story so they’re the one who’s been wronged. You could catch them red-handed, and they’ll still cry about how you’re “attacking” them.

5. The Never-Ending Ego Boost Hunt

They need constant validation—think of them as an emotional vampire, except instead of blood, they feed off compliments and admiration. If they’re not getting attention, they’ll sulk, lash out, or create drama just to stay relevant.

6. Manipulation 101

A narcissist will say and do whatever it takes to keep control over you. Whether it’s guilt-tripping, love-bombing, or playing the victim, their goal is to make sure you never realise you deserve better.

7. They Can’t Handle Criticism

Even the mildest form of criticism sends them into a tailspin. Expect tantrums, silent treatments, or an Oscar-worthy performance about how you’ve “betrayed” them.

8. Charm, Then Chaos

At first, they’re charming, funny, and seem too good to be true. Then, once you’re hooked, the mask slips, and you realise you’ve been catfished by someone’s ego.

9. They Exploit Others

A narcissist sees people as tools, not human beings. Whether it’s using you for money, status, or emotional labour, their needs always come first.

10. They Never Change

No matter how many chances you give them, they won’t change. Because in their mind, they don’t need to—they’re perfect, and you’re the problem.

How to Protect Yourself from a Narcissist

Alright, now that we’ve identified the emotional leeches, how do we keep them from sucking us dry?

1. Set Boundaries & Stick to Them

A narcissist will push your limits just to see how much they can get away with. Be firm. A simple “No” is a full sentence.

2. Stop Explaining Yourself

Narcissists love to twist your words and guilt-trip you into submission. You don’t owe them an essay defending your choices.

3. Limit Contact (Or Go No Contact If You Can)

If cutting them off completely isn’t an option, keep interactions to a minimum. Grey rock them—give boring, unemotional responses until they lose interest.

4. Document Everything

If you’re dealing with a narcissist at work or in a legal situation, keep records. Screenshots, emails, voice notes—whatever it takes to protect yourself.

5. Don’t Engage in Their Drama

Narcissists thrive on conflict. The more you react, the more they win. Stay calm, disengage, and refuse to play their games.

6. Build a Support System

Talk to people who actually care about you. Having a strong support network makes it easier to break free from their control.

7. Prioritise Your Own Healing

Leaving a narcissistic relationship (romantic, platonic, or professional) is exhausting. Focus on your mental and emotional well-being—therapy, self-care, and surrounding yourself with people who uplift you.

What’s This Got to Do with Dope Soul Village?

Glad you asked. At Dope Soul Village, we believe in women supporting women—because let’s be honest, we’ve all dealt with at least one narcissist in our lives. Whether it’s an ex, a toxic friend, or that one boss who thought workplace exploitation was a personality trait, we’ve been there.

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Final Thoughts

Narcissists are everywhere, but they don’t have to control your life. The moment you recognise the signs, set boundaries, and reclaim your power, you’re already winning.

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